Silly Men.

You may have been wondering how things turned out from last week! It was sheer madness. For those of you who are just joining us you can read what happened here: http://lifeandotherridiculousthings.blogspot.com/2015/04/perspective-during-hardship.html

So G and his group (a veritable "band of brothers" if you will) worked straight through Wednesday to Friday. Although they took occasional naps, since G works to support the family he only got a 5 hour nap during that entire span. Saying that it was madness, crazy, awful, exhausting, or harrowing simply couldn't contain the range of emotions spent both by him and us as they worked this up. That entire time moving toward the Senior show on Friday afternoon where businessmen, professors, students, and family could view the work.

I had hardly seen his handsome face when my grandparents, our two boys, and I walked in that hall and I was completely blown away by the rush of emotions I felt. This single show, this week, this challenge was the culmination of literally years of hard work. The cost of this effort was hundreds of hours spent with our family separated, dozens of missed church activities, dozens of family events, dozens of little milestones, and who knows what else. I was so proud of him and his friends. I was so happy for them! My heart still bursts full with gratitude to God and happiness and pride. This was the hardest semester G would have and we did it! I'm sure other wives with husbands in school know how I feel.

So imagine my surprise when this happened today. We were sitting at the table eating lunch together on this beautiful Sunday afternoon and talking about school ending and where his friends were accepting jobs. He mentioned that Tadd, someone he met a few years ago in class and who ended up becoming a very good friend, was proposing to his girlfriend this summer after he graduated. We were happy for him and I was asking different things about it: "Is he excited," "Is he going to do something really romantic?" and things of that nature and G mentioned that he was saving up for the ring. I commented

 "that's what you do when you really love someone... you sacrifice."

He paused and looked a little sad for a moment.

A little background, G and I got married at 18 and 19. I wondered occasionally if it was what God wanted but I know now that God is the only reason my wonderful life happened this way. He proposed at random after using the bathroom (ha ha) which although we used to laugh about, he is still bothered that he didn't do something better.

I asked his what was wrong, why he looked upset for a second and he said "that comment just got to me a little bit" to which I asked why and he said "because I never really sacrificed for you."

Now I don't know if you noticed anything in my posts.. any of them.. but they are generally filled with my love for this man for his dedicated and hard working spirit. So when I heard what he said I had to laugh for a while. I sat his back down and looked him in the face and made it very clear that although maybe we can have a nicer wedding someday, just about everything he has done in the past 3 years has been a sacrifice in some way or another. Whether by losing sleep, working at a place that he doesn't always enjoy, or something else. And that is why I titled this post "Silly Men."